Delaware County Community College

SAFETY TIPS
(IF YOUR PARTNER IS VIOLENT)

  • Find out where you can go for help. Tell someone what is happening to you. Keep phone numbers of friends, relatives, and domestic violence programs with you..
  • Call the police (dial 911) or arrange a signal with a neighbor to call the police when you are in danger and need help.
  • If you go to a hospital or doctor because you are hurt by your husband or boyfriend, tell the doctor what happened and ask him or her to document it in your medical file. Keep any evidence of abuse, such as photos of bruises and injuries, or ripped clothing. All of this will be helpful if you decide to take legal action in the future.
  • If you are thinking of leaving, plan Now:
    • choose the safest time to get away.
    • hide a spare set of keys, some money and extra clothes in case of emergency.
    • Collect important papers, including:
      • birth certificates,
      • passports,
      • health insurance documents,
      • identification or driver's license,
      • immunization records for both you and your kids,
      • checkbook,
      • prescriptions and medication,
      • food stamps,
      • and Social Security cards for both you and your children.
    • Also collect any evidence of your partner's assets (such as paycheck stubs) if you plan to seek alimony or child support.
  • Tell your children that, if there's violence, their job is to stay safe, not to protect you. Find a safe place for them to stay in case of violence, such as with a neighbor or in a locked room. Teach them to call 911 in an emergency.
  • Call one of the domestic violence hotline numbers listed below to learn about laws, shelter, and other resources to help.
  • To prevent parental kidnapping, make fingerprints of your children and keep them in a safe place, and obtain a temporary custody order if your partner threatens to take the children.